I elevated every aspect of my single life in just 21 days. That was all it took to clear my mind, quit the chaos, recharge, refocus, and re-engage. What did I do for those 21 days? A cleanse.
But not just any cleanse, girlfriend! I call it the “Single Girl Cleanse.” Why? Because as single women, we are juggling ALL the things. And when we don’t function, everything (like, everything) comes to a screeching halt. WOMP WOMP.
So, this was a multi-part cleanse, with the intention of resetting my health and wellbeing in all the ways. It had physical, mental, and emotional components to it. On purpose. If you want the full protocol and all my reasons why, I saved it for you HERE.
I was specific with my intentions going into this experience because I was tired of feeling like I was swimming in commotion, lacking direction, and just generally just not feeling my best.
On top of hoping to escape the insanity and get myself back to better, I started to feel the pull to jump back into dating. When I date, I refuse to just go through the motions, so it’s important to me that I make space to do it well. I can’t be fully present when I’m constantly cycling through chaos, so my stuff needs to be situated first. I can’t be my most confident self when I’m feeling like crap, so being on top of my health and wellness game is also a must.
Even though I had good goals going into this process, I still gained more from it than I planned for. Here’s what I walked away with:
1. Clarity
Part of this cleanse was a media detox. When you stay off social media and turn off the TV, you’re able to create more moments of quiet. Necessary quiet. It’s amazing how much noise we get hit with every single day…from sources and places we wouldn’t even think of when we’re trying to avoid the madness. It can be all-consuming without us even realizing.
Taking time offline really allowed me to make more time for reflection, but it also allowed me to not have to constantly navigate all of the unnecessary information we get hit with every time we turn on our devices. The quiet that this created let me realize there were some simple solutions to things I had been struggling with. And clearing out all that clutter made a lot of great space for creativity.
2. Motivation
Little victories really add up, and they keep pushing us in the direction of our dreams – no matter how tangentially related they might be. Each time I stopped and looked up long enough to recognize that I was feeling better, lighter, more focused, less distracted, and clearer, I was motivated to do more. I started stepping forward with greater assurance and power. Confidence started to grow, belief got stronger, and truth got louder.
There are a few other goals that I wouldn’t have let myself entertain before, but the momentum from this cleanse brought them out of the shadows and bumped them up to the top of my hit list!
3. Consistency
My word for the year this year is “promise.” It’s about having the courage to make and keep promises to myself and others. And, as it might be for you as well, that keeping-promises-to-myself part is always particularly challenging for me. Not only did this process encourage me to prioritize myself, it also reminded me that keeping promises doesn’t require flawless execution. It’s not about perfection, it’s about persistence.
Often, it’s the fear of not being able to do something perfectly that keeps us from endeavoring to do it at all.
So, I did this cleanse thing a little differently this time: I refused to be insanely stringent about it, and I refused to quit. I gave myself permission to do it imperfectly, but I also required myself to stick with it.
If there’s a promise you’ve been wanting to make yourself, but you haven’t because you’re not sure you’ll be able to keep it, I want to offer you this little bit of encouragement: Have faith that you will follow through. Trust yourself to show up. When we consciously compile small, purposeful acts, we begin to build lasting change. If there’s positive change that you desire for yourself, you are worthy of making that promise. And you deserve to keep it and see it through to fruition.
Wishing you health and wellness, and all the things you’ve been dreaming of, darling! If I can offer any tips, tricks, or support as you elevate your single life, please reach out!
